Wow...this is just outstanding. I am so very happy that you seem to be on a good road with your marriage. I do hope your H truly sees what a treasure you are.
About your family...IMHO, you are the one who took the biggest leap of faith in staying strong and true during all of this. You remained loyal and are now starting to reap the benefits of that loyalty. As you have been able to work through the problems, so should your family.
But...
They have also shared your heartbreaks and pain with you. They are wary and still probably suspicious. They may not embrace this with open arms right now because they need to see if the changes will stick. So the idea of DBing your family makes sense. Let them see the changes in your H, in you and in your new marriage. As you grow together, the defenses will come down.
Big Yankee hug!!!
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
