"Things are better than they have been in the past several years, if not ever in our marriage. While I can't say I'm happy we have gone through this, I can say that now we are truly coming out on the other side, our relationship is getting stronger than ever before."
I KNOW what you mean! .....AND....I hope my last post was clear; the point I wanted to make is that there is another "plane" or "level" you get to experience with your H after you go through something like this and decide to piece it. It is not and will not be a "complacent marriage" after this. Yes, the complacency can return if you don't keep the changes going. I don't think people who care about us can understand it unless they've been through it too.
Our society wants us to to throw in the towel after something like an A. I went to the library to find a passage in DR or DB. Not only didn't they have DR or DB, there was not one book there that was about repairing a marriage! They were all about separation and divorce and how to do it. I'm going to buy them a copy of both and donate them. I suggest others do the same.
DB is a way of thinking that few know about...really. People either wanted me to leave him or "just get over it." Neither was an option.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
