A fork in the road - EA admitted by wife

[NYCPeter]

Hence my contention that child support is the more accurate term. IS it possible you misunderstood the L"s words?

I would need to pay Child Support (standard calculation) and lifetime spousal support (because my W could claim she cannot work and would need to look after our D9, not an unrealistic claim) - we've been married 12 years so it's considered a long-term M. I would also be responsible for my W's health insurance as she won't be able to work.

Point taken re: larger firm vs smaller firm - I live in a small town 25 miles north of NYC, there is a larger town near by where I could look at larger firms.

do you have any pals or friends? You need to. It's a big issue and you have to make it happen.

I grew up in the UK and moved to the US 20 years ago - so all my old friends are in the UK. I have made many friends in the US but they all live in the city or in NJ and with the exception of 1 are married - by the time I have put the girls to bed it's usually 9pm - too late to make a trip to see them. Weekends are tough because my W works so I need to be there for the girls.

Most women want a man who can provide for his family, is kind and interested in what she has to say, shows love, is a good father, and can have fun.

This is not what my W wants - right now she wants to be alone, she doesn't love me and does not see the love returning - she said so in a convo the other night. I've tried to give her space and taken on a lot more responsibility with the girls to give her the opportunities to do what she wants.

How severely disabled is your d, btw?

She can't feed herself or go to the toilet on her own, she has limited motor skills. She cannot talk though clearly understands a lot of what is going on around her. She goes to a special needs school (which is one reason we moved to this area) also the town my W grew up in.