Well, we finally had another talk last night about this situation. She seemed somewhat annoyed/angry that we haven't talked about it since last weekend. She asked me if I was trying to "wait her out" until she changed her mind. I told her it didn't have anything to do with her, that it had to do with me needing to work on myself. I've been at a place in my life for a couple of years now where I'm much more willing to look within myself to see where I need to make changes to make myself and our marriage happier. She is aware of this because of changes I've already made. And I told her about the counseling session I'll be having this morning. I told her that I've learned a lot about what it can be like (from MWD, DB) and that I really want to share some of what I've learned about that but I said I wasn't ready and didn't think she was either. She didn't really say anything but at least she was listening.
She is expecting me to help her plan how the kids get told and how she get out of here. I told her that we have two different goals for the oytcome of this and that I wasn't going to help do anything that I know will hurt the kids. She didn't get angry with me and then we talked about some of the upcoming plans we had already made including thanksgiving, she wants to go to her parents alone to tell them what's going on. I hate that we'd be doing the holidays apart, but at least I'll have the kids with me. I also hate that I won't be involved in the conversations she'll be having with various members of her family. I am close to them as well and wish I could let them know my goals to not end this marriage.
I realise it's been only a week, but it's so hard trying to be strong, and not yet seeing any sign of her changing her mind.
