We have no children, one of her problems with me because I "denied her the chance to have a family".
She is very low in self confidence and hates herself and the world in general, believing that everyone is looking to hurt her. I think she doesn't want to lose sight of her safety blanket and also she may be regretting being hasty. Or maybe I am just wishfully thinking? As you can see from "War and Peace" above, she has told me a few times it is all over. So I have told her I have accepted that without question. Then she starts responding to emails an hour after the last finale. Then two days later she comes up with an excuse to see me and then she drops in the following day for an hour to collect the medication I picked up for her.
I will stop inviting her. She knows where I am most of the time and knows she could join me if she pleases.
I am interested in many things, classic car restoration, auto upholstery, caravanning etc. To GAL I have booked piano lessons and this week will start ballroom and Latin dance classes. I could do that twice a week with some effort. This Sunday I could have done something, but pottered about the house hoping she would call me, naturally she didn't. Seems to be some reason why she shuts away at the weekends.
As far as the leaving her is concerned, see the venom about me going out with her xgf's partner for Sunday lunch. Also the paragraph about how miserable she is and can't bear to hear about me having a life. Crazy, she knows she can be part of it, but she will not do it.
Explain to me about how I deal with her contacting me. At what point if she does, do I respond positively and start building? Is there not a danger that if I lock her out, that she will say "What the hell" and retreat back into her depression? That thought scares me witless. She has seen many of the changes I have made so far without a doubt and she has seen some of the self help books I have been reading. Haven't shown her DB though. She took away 5LL but not sure if she intends to read it or prop up a table!
