IB Long long periods of no contact. More than a year without a word. Post divorce I re-initiated contact and we keep it up pretty intermittently, although he has begun to withdraw again. I am OK with that.
Some run fast and hard. Also I had firm boundaries, and when they were violated I stopped contact too. When my xh did contact me, for the longest time, it was to spew . . . . very very little positive interaction for a very long time. weird, when we so close and loving. like losing an arm.
I am detached and largely accepting of all that has happened. Regrets? yes, who wouldn't after a long and happy marriage, but I am OK and getting better all the time. I now know he is the bigger loser out of all of this. And I am sorry for him.
