Don't give up staying dark. It doesn't count if she comes by to see you. But if she emails or TM's, you don't answer b/c you have such a busy life or turned the phone off.....You can answer a persistant TM in case of an emergency (Do you have kids?. You can even answer a TM or phone call once in a while, but find out what she called about, be nice & end the call quickly. You can stay dark. Make this about you, not her.
It sounds very much as if she is holding you on the back burner in case nobody else shows up to take her out. She won't give you a definite answer (which any lady should either commit, or release the gentlemen to pursue another for his date). That may be considered old fashion etiquette, but it should still stand today.
Stop inviting her out (for now) and start getting out of that house! Go places. What are your areas of interest? What drew your attention before you M? If you have to go into every shop in the mall, then that's better than staying home alone. Stay away from "couple" activities, b/c that will only depress you (now). Every man who finally started taking the advice to GAL, came back to tell us how great it was and how it helped to get his life in perspective.
If you ever stand a chance with your W wanting to return, it will be when she thinks you are leaving her. Big difference there! Right now she holds the power in this stitch. She will continue to hold that power over your life until you decide to take back the reigns. I guarantee you that if she thought that you had lost interest in her....she would be pursuing you within a week.
But that will be her little test, so don't fall for it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
