I'm sorry you are in such pain. We are here to support you and help you work through solutions.
Mostly, right now, I'm worried about YOU. Let's just take care of you right now.
It's really important to eat a few bites of nutritious food, even if you don't feel like it, and find a way to sleep. Find a way to do a little exercise. If you can't--it's time to see a doctor. Don't worry about her words, her actions right now. Your pastor is right, she's in a fog.
So--time to put your own oxygen mask on first---take care of yo, so you can take care of your marriage.
