I understand what you are going through. You need to go dark and GAL. Do not contact her for anything. If she texts or calls you, let it go straight to voice mail. If it's important then she will leave a message. Make her guess. Don't let her think that you are sitting at home being depressed.

It is working for me.

H: 49
W: 47
D: 6
M: 6 1/2 yrs
H: Bomb #1 6-2010
H: Bomb #2 7-2011
H: Separated: 7-11-11
Reconciling 2-2012
Separated: 1-31-15 (I asked him to move out)