My question is, how to I work on my 180 at the same time she keeps wanting to talk to me about moving forward with the collaborative divorce? What do I say to her when she keeps trying to push me to agree on a divorce?
"Wife, I do not agree with your decision to end this M but I respect your wishes. I have been thinking about this and the way our M stands, it isn't working for me either. Since you seem to have made up your mind, you should be the one who will file for D. You are free to choose."
Then get busy with your 180's.
Don't fight feelings with feelings.
She has no respect for you right now, so give her what she wants. Validate her feelings and show that you respect her wishes even though you do not agree with them.
Work on yourself and understand how you got to the sitch you find yourself in today.
She will be watching you. Talk is cheap, actions matter.
