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What are the ages of you and H?
What were his complaints before the A?
If he feels that the therapy sessions are beating him down, he will finally refuse to attend. His affair was based on the OW making him feel better about himself. He will not want to be around others who make him feel like a failure.
Right now, I would suggest that you not have R talks with him.
Have you read the Divorce Remedy book?
Come back as often as possible and build up your support group here.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
