I found out because her car was parked outside the OM house all night. The real problem here is that I still love her and still want her back. What does that say about me? I just can't believe that she would do this to me or our kids.
It says you were invested in your marriage; your W was not. Unfortunately we are in love with who our spouses used to be and what our marriages used to be. But our marriages, as we remember them, are dead, and our spouses are no longer the ones we fell in love with.
I wish I could give you some optimistic words of wisdom about your marriage, but I truly think that once there is an OM or OW there is very little that can be done. An affair is the ultimate selfish slap in the face and it shows a complete lack of respect and love for the LBS by the WAS.
Your biggest task now is to not let the OM or your W's affair take control of your life. That is very difficult and will require incredible self-control on your part. Keep busy, focus on you and do not let the OM rent space in your head for free.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
