OK this typo is funny...I gotta pass it on! "I'm here to look for a near perfect match and WORK on building the relationship, but not to change or mold myself for your liking or wishfully hanging you." Hey, after seeing her profile picture I'd hang with her any day lol.
G, glad I've inspired you! Here's my online profile, steal it if you like lol.
You + Me = Us. I've done the math and it all adds up. So let's get this equation started! I'm a caring and sincere man with an engaging sense of humour who has a positive outlook on life. I'm a curious and open minded person who loves to learn and experience all that life has to offer. Some of the things I'm into right now are Yoga, Qi Gong and Meditation. I try to run when possible...I love the crisp Autumn air. In the past I've taken Ballroom and Latin Dance lessons. I'm a bit rusty but my skills can be quickly revived with the right partner. I'm also hot with a wok! I enjoy cooking Chinese cuisine and can prepare about 50 different dishes at last count. As for outings, I'm a man who truly enjoys those long walks in the park, listening to the waves on the beach, out of town day trips to explore places never been or dinner and a movie (live theatre is even better! )with someone special. Now, I wouldn't be me if I didn't mention my two incredible daughters, 17 & 14, who remind me each day how good life can be when it's filled with love. Family and good friends are an absolute blessing in my life. I am also employed as a professional in the health care field and I believe that shows a compassionate and respectful nature which can only be an asset in the building of a great relationship. As an added bonus, I'm not looking to play "wham, bam, and thank you ma'am" (do I hear sighs of relief out there?). I want to sit on a beach together watching the sun set, laugh and talk late into the night, hold your hand to feel close to you, call you on the phone just to hear your voice and hold you when you need a hug (feel free to return hugs as needed). I'm looking for a real romance that starts with friendship and grows from there. So, with all that said, I'm patiently searching high and low for that special hand to hold. Could it be yours?
The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.
Welcome to the online dating world! I've been at it for over a year with very limited success. It seems to me most people are pretending to be something they are not and the authentic, real, and vulnerable ones ready to open their hearts to love are not online (at least the males aren't). Sounds like you might be one of those, so lucky for all those ladies in your geographic area.
I've met guys very early in the process and after emailing for a lengthy period. I prefer to meet early on to see if the "attraction" or "chemistry" really exists. 90% of the time it unfortunately does not. I wish you all the best and can't wait to follow your adventures!!
BTW, just an FYI...if you put down that you are "separated" many of the women you are seeking won't respond. Talking with my g/friends, who are also looking for a relationship, we believe that's a "deal breaker" because it shows the guy isn't finished with his previous relationship and unavailable for commitment. For what it's worth.....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Nope, my shirt is on! I wish I was wearing a different one but I only have so many pics to choose from at the moment. In one I'm hugging a sculpture of a frog, I titled it "love is in the air. Can you feel it?" In another I'm sitting on a rock posing like the thinker, caption reads "thoughtfully planning our perfect date". I've got a head shot titled "me, myself and I" and a full body shot titled "why not take all of me!" I figure these fun titles give woman something to comment on when they email and showcase part of my personality. I usually get emails like "Hi, check out my profile, let me know" or "hope there's a connection here" I'm left wondering "why would there be, tell me!" Anyway, something that I've discovered in the brief time I've been doing this is that it forces me concentrate on my positives. When you write up your profile you're sharing what you like about yourself and what others will like. My profile is 100% true and who I really am. When you email someone, you're trying to say "hey, I'm pretty darn good!". I sat down and wrote out a list of all my desirable qualities and I'm up to 60 now. Each day I want to re-write them in this way "I am ....." I keep adding each day. So far, this has been positive for me. It's building my self esteem, not hurting it at the moment. I also think that guys get far less emails than women do. We're supposed to be the hunters and women still expect it. So I hunt when I see something I want to catch. So G, you've really got nothing to lose. I use a free site, POF (often labeled "Plenty of Freaks") but some of the pay sites are only about 10-15 bucks a month. Give it a whirl, see what happens!
Thanks Golfgirl, I'm wondering whether I should comment on my separated status briefly at the end of the profile, something like "Btw, I've been separated for over 4 years, no drama here, just a matter of getting the paperwork done!" but I also don't want to draw attention to what could be seen as a negative either. I could also contact my lawyer and get it done. No reason not to at this point except the cost. Anyway, should I comment or not? What do people think?
Online dating sites are a trip when it comes to marital status WII. You could say something but the reality is that anyone who it is important to wont even read your profile. That brings in the second issue which is why is it not important to those taking the time to read your profile. When they see separated they should probably just back away.
The online sites have never lead ANYONE that I know into a relationship. The old fashioned way of doing things seems to work best buddy. Good to read up on ya by the way. I havent been on in forever so its nice to see a few of the oldies on here.
Nice to hear from you Ian! I guess it comes down to what Dr Suess once said “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”
He also said "You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.”
We're up to 24 now. Apparently the Eiffel Tower wants to meet me too. Not only pumpkins but tourist attractions are interested in me. I'm so well rounded, I guess. Her profile was a dazzling four lines, what's not to love. Pass.
