You don't want to send signals that the path is clear. Anything you do in that regard is pursuit and only further devalues you in W's eyes ("Oh God, I don't want to be with him, doesn't he get it."). And, most importantly, it's not what she wants right now. Give her what she says she wants -- space, space, space, a world without H. It will speed up her seeing whether it's REALLY what she wants, especially as you better yourself in comparison. Set some goals for yourself and your time with the boys for the next month.
It seems counter-intuitive, but the more you ACCEPT her choice to pull away from you and that YOU distance and emotionally detach YOURSELF from her, and get your own life and mojo back in order (amicably/self-assuredly/confidently/swaggeringly), the better off you will be.
this I agree with. But the exposure does NOT help and is one of those things we veterans say, "Beware" of...
imo, we don't know what will MAKE his wife come back OR IF there's a way.
But we tend to know things that won't work or make things worse. To me, your idea, IF I understand it, is to tell others.
And that my friend, will NOT HELP HIM...it will hurt his cause, and I say that with utter certainty.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
