Ummm...I highly doubt he's morphed from "true colors showing, W has to call you to complain about him" to "He's everything you should have been". I'd take everything she says with a large canister of salt. I think she says some of that just to goad you.
Yeah, this is kind of what I was thinking, too. She has said many hurtful things to me already during this time frame that were obviously said to get under my skin, so I wouldn't put it beneath her.
Plus, I keep forgetting one of the Number One rules for DB-ers: "Believe none of what you hear and only 50% of what you see." Why should I take any of what she says so seriously? It might be true. Then again...it might not be.
I like the way you put it: "with a large canister of salt." Sometimes, a grain just ain't enough.
In many ways, I regret even asking the question. My goal is detaching and yet I'm still grasping for reassurance about W and OM! Seems like a waste of head-space to me. What happens with them will happen. It's out of my hands. Good things will come around the bend for me with or without her.
Originally Posted By: kml
Also, check out meetup.com - many people here have had good experiences with meetup groups. Or sign up for dance lessons. Or, if you play an instrument, find an adult "school of rock" type class - that's what I did, now I've been playing drums in an amateur rock band for the last three years
I'll try meetup.com. Man, you have to love technology these days -- it makes finding people and things so much easier than it used to be. And good hearing about the band situation for you. Sometimes a good rock song is all you need to get back on track!
I found myself listening to "I'm Not Down" by The Clash and was inspired by the positive lyrics. Seriously, people, look them up. They're inspiring. (They almost seem to have inspired Chumbawamba -- the lyrics bring "Tubthumping" to mind.)
Sometimes, a grain just ain't enough. 