Val, IMO you have just had more positive exchanges with your W than I have had with mine in the last year.
Why should wood swing?
I think it was very admirable the way you conducted yourself.
It is normal to have stress and emotive reactions after, getting them out is healthy.
You’ve had epiphanies. Give yourself time to process them and adjust to the new information.
It seems as though she has also grown a bit.
Friendship is not a bad thing so long as neither is sacrificing for it. Friendship is a better R than the one where we are bickering over who keeps the couch and coffee table.
As much as the separation s*cks it is an R of sorts, dialing down the rhetoric and anger is a small positive step to better. Providing an environment for friendly positive exchanges is another small step. If a friendship begins and can be nourished it is a step on the path to better also.
There is a mantra in my professional life it relates to change and patience. “Do not let best get in the way of better”.
Too often with any change people strive so hard to get best, they lose sight of better. They will accept nothing less than best. In doing so they fail to use better as the resting step it is along the path of continuous improvement and they fail. They fail to have the patience to use better to get to best.
What represents best to you? I finally dropped my rope when I realized my best did not need my W. I want her there but I do not need her there for my “best”
Do not let best get in the way of better Peace & ((()))
It seems incredibly odd to me that an old grunt should be wishing peace and hugs, but perhaps that is a 180 also.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
