You don't want to send signals that the path is clear. Anything you do in that regard is pursuit and only further devalues you in W's eyes ("Oh God, I don't want to be with him, doesn't he get it."). And, most importantly, it's not what she wants right now. Give her what she says she wants -- space, space, space, a world without H. It will speed up her seeing whether it's REALLY what she wants, especially as you better yourself in comparison. Set some goals for yourself and your time with the boys for the next month.
It seems counter-intuitive, but the more you ACCEPT her choice to pull away from you and that YOU distance and emotionally detach YOURSELF from her, and get your own life and mojo back in order (amicably/self-assuredly/confidently/swaggeringly), the better off you will be.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
