A fork in the road - EA admitted by wife

[NYCPeter]

Thanks for the reply - the permenant alimony would be because she needs to look after our D (or at least that's what my L told me her L will claim).

Why a firm BTW? The person I saw worked in a two-person firm locally, I've been told it's best to use someone in the local area (they know the judge etc)

GAL activity - I need to find time I recognize that, I think it's time to start going to the gym regularly again - I go off and on, but I need to make it a habit. I've always wanted to play a musical instrument - but neither of these create any "mystery".. Go to the movies on my own..

Hmmm, she must expect a huge increase in tips. 2/3 of divorced women find their standard of living goes DOWN post divorce and the others stay afloat with their own work and income...your w isn't be realistic.

She knows her standard of living will go down - but not to the degree it will. All the girls after-school and weekend activities will need to be pared back.

Can we afford the specialized Feldenkrais therapy for our daughter with CP that we pay for ourselves. All the trips we go on with the girls will need to be reduced.

To all the posters on my thread - a big thank you, it's the only thing that seems to keep me sane.