Thought it would be done by now...part 3

[25yearsmlc]

it's a pretty personal question.

Was affection a LL of his? Can you manage to hug and kiss him and then not feel crushed that he's gone to her?

Or are you concerned that being cold to him only confirms his need for her?

I wonder if you were warm and affectionate and IF that's a LL of his, whether it'd be helpful.

But I am mostly concerned with what MY DB coach told me which was, "do what YOU can handle if he doesn't 'call' the next day."

For us, intimacy was a strength so we engaged in it and I usually felt good about it. It seemed to help us reconnect.

I know you are only talking about a kiss and hug...

But if YOU are going to feel used or abused or confused

then don't.

when you have detached more it might get easier.