I'm still here part III

[Valeska19]

DG,
It's okay that his passive-aggressive attitude bothers you. What he did was.. well..

If you feel your text was ONLY defending yourself.. so be it. If there was more to it.. be honest with yourself.

I only ask those questions because of the severe rejection I went through when w "abandoned our relationship" so I would stay stuff just hoping for some kind of response.

Regardless.

You don't owe him any kind of response. You don't need to defend yourself. You know your heart. That was his insecurities.

Okay.. HOWEVER.. I'll bet that it still hurt him that you shut off the phone.

So he baited you and you took it.. IMHO (sorry for the small 2x4).

I was sitting in my car last night with a g/f. She is going through a break-up and she started to cry because b/f reacted immaturely to her FB status.. which she was reacting immaturely to previous post by him.

And I was like "why are you upset that he commented when you started it". Obviously I'm still learning tact.

I'm not saying you started it, but DG.. don't finish it. Recognize your pain AND his.

As you start sticking up for yourself, your H is going to push back. All of his flaws, insecurities, BS will come up in the form of anger, guilt, kindness, and who knows what.

I remember when my w took out money from our account. That women spewed venom at me for a whole month. I kept my ground but I also showed compassion to her feelings.

Yesterday.. w gave back that money.

It's up to you to get yourself prepared.. and figuring out who you want to be here. Because it may not happen today, tomorrow, months, or even years from now.. but I guarantee you that it WILL matter.