I'm NOT saying all these responses are perfect DBIng examples, but I would sure be temped to say one of them...
"I'm not the one who wants to end the marriage, so how is that fair to ME?" "W, the numbers YOU have are a lot higher than the numbers my L gave me. IN fact, my information says we will BOTH be downsizing if we divorce" (This is probably safe DBing)
so in YOUR vision w, the only thing that will change is ME Leaving...and everything else is the same? Does that actually seem realistic to you?"
" Is that what you tell yourself to make it seem like less of the logistical and emotional nightmare that is getting created?" (probably not so DBing but...probably true)
sorry Peter...BUT you STILL have to back off otherwise. No pursuit or ILY's and NO ANGER....NONE...BE CALM--180 GALORE...
the second you show your anger again is only going to FUEL HER NEGATIVES and confirm her choice to leave.
Contrast those negative images she feeds herself with 180s that undermine those images!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
