Do I stay or do I go?

[verycrazy]

Well, we'll see what happens next. He says he misses you now, let's see how much he really misses you later. Your problems are not such that they can't be overcome. Perhaps the crying and hugging was meant to make HIM feel better. I am glad you didn't let him off the hook, and just walked away.

I hope you spend some time on making you feel better this weekend. Have you met any of your new neighbors yet?

vc

[anyhope]

Hey vc, (and everyone else)

I met the funniest old lady while moving in.. She must be the friendliest, happiest person alive, so cute, I chatted with her and she put a smile on my face despite the cold and moving and all..
Aside from her I have not but my mom lives in the building next to mine and she helped me quite a bit and came shopping with me and all.
I'm also so glad I moved here because of the location, with a parks and run track just across the street it's a nice setting with lots of dogs so my dog likes it.
Yes will see how things turn out.. At least I feel a lot better knowing that he misses me and still have feelings for me.
I got a call from a friend this morning and she asked me to go out with them for dinner tomorrow which I think I should do, just to get a life I guess, so that's the plan for tomorrow.
Btw the apartment looks lovely despite the size of it.. The only weird thing was that I heard the fridge while trying to sleep :)) but oh well..
Have a great weekend!

[kml]

I just walked away as I felt it was better to say nothing. Should he still love me or should it be so hard to let me go he'd make the choice to be with me which he didn't.. So what's there to say?

Bravo! And if he starts to tell you again how much he misses you, tell him a man who really missed you would kick his mistress out, go to counseling to fix his problems, and demonstrate his good intentions. End of discussion.

But don't get too sucked in. Lots of times they just wish they could have continued having their cake and eating it too.

As for your fridge - dust off the coils. And make sure all the doors seal tight. That may solve your problem.

[verycrazy]

I forgot you were moving near your mother. That's great. Sounds like a nice place, with you and doggy liking it Your neighbor lady sounds nice, one of my best friends when we rented was a grandmother who lived in our building. Don't get me started about refrigerators. Ours died slowly over the summer, and we got a new one, finally. It's nice to have ice cream that stays frozen again!

You have a great weekend, too. Have fun with your friends!

vc

[anyhope]

Well, this fridge works fine, but because it's a studio apartmet.. It's too close to my 'bedroom' lol.
I had a good time and h called me the day I went out because he saw a post a friend of my posted about going out that night. The next day he didn't call. It was the first day he didnt and even though he said he'd come over to hook something up he didn't nor did he call today.. Wrong he did call today.. I ended up booking that vacation my friends were planning and I said I was gonna go no matter what.. Well they ended up choosing an expensive place.. Not even that it's so expensive but because I'm going solo my taxes are higher.. Long story short I debated for the longest time about it because I really can't afford it, but at the same time I thought it would be good for me and h would not be happy if I went just as I wasn't happy when he flew cross country to see ow, so I decided I will not care about finances at this time, I will go.. Oh and yesterday I had a one hour massage h got for me a year ago and I just used it now as the certificate would have expired next week.. So... I'm living life like a rich person with zero income.. It's funny but it's not funny. I'll get myself back on track after the vacation.
Well.. I posted on fb a photo of the resort I was going to and within an hour he was asking if I was going then called me and offered to drive me and said he'll be taking the dog. I said I'd rather leave the dog with my brother as I don't want ow touching him. He said she won't.. Well. Not much I can do.. I knew that if I was to take him to my brother he would have taken him anyways. Before we even moved he was more concerned about seeing the dog than me..
But now him not calling yesterday.. And only calling today because I'm going away I think he may have only missed me in the first few days and ow will make him forget about me..
Did check out ow fb profile as well and she posts photos taken all over our house.. Makes me sick, I know I shouldn't look but can't help it..

[verycrazy]

Well, I got a bit of a laugh at you living like a rich person on no income. I hope you have a great time on the vacation. And you can give the dog a spa day when you get back in case ow touches him.
Your H sure is keeping tabs on you. And ow is immature, and is just rubbing it in that she is in your house. Blech!

vc

[anyhope]

I know.. I'm pretty sure she doesn't know I look at her fb.. Or she might I don't care, but for a girl like her it's an accomplishment I guess. Dog will take a huge bath after for sure, thank god he enjoys taking baths..

I was thinking last night that ow no ow were better off taking some time and space to re-evaluate things.. If it was meant to be we'll somehow reconcile.. It woud take a lot.. I mean, as bad as I feel sometimes I wouldn't want to go back to the old marriage anyways and for an improved one we both have to take a hard look at ourselves and see if we'd want the relationship and if yes, how to make it better.. These changes don't happen overnight even if we both want it..

[verycrazy]

I agree, taking some time to re-evaluate things is going to be good for you and your H, too, even if ow is in the picture (for now). Give you a chance to try out your wings, on your own for a time.

You are on the right track to finding out what you want.

p.s. maybe you said, but what kind of dog do you have?

vc

[kml]

The fridge may be working fine, but if the coils are dusty or the seals are not tight, it will turn on much more frequently. People always forget to dust the coils.

[anyhope]

I have a little Boston terrier :)) god I miss him. H was here earlier because I'm leaving tomorrow he took him over.. I miss him... He's such a good, loving little dog.. I'm really not happy that he'll be spending his days with ow while h is at work, but h also misses him and there was no question he was gonna have him for the week.

Btw h is not so crazy about ow anymore..

I asked him today if she paid rent yet (i asked h when we still lived together if ow was going to move in once I leave and he said something like he doesn't know.. He said she can only live there if she helps with the rent, so I thought who are you kidding..shell just come here and never leave, you won't ask her to pay rent.. ) so anyhow he said he will otherwise she can't live there. So today, given that it's the 9th and she's been there as of the night of the 2nd I asked if she paid rent yet, he said she didn't and he wasn't sure he wanted to live with her.. The way he said it i could tell the love is not as deep as he thought it would be before she got there.. I cant really see the conversation in my head where he asks her to leave.. How do you ask someone you 'love'? So babe.. Do you feel like going home anytime soon? Unless they break up of course, but ow is trying hard I think and I don't see that happening either. So I told him I think what will happen is that he doesnt really want to live with her so therefore will not ask her for rent but at the same time he won't ask her to leave, so shell just live there for free and I was right again..
Anyhow he is taking me to the airport in the morning. When he left he asked me for a kiss and while I did nothing I let him hug me and kiss me on the cheeks.. I got about 4 kisses how many will I get tomorrow when I leave for a week? We'll see.