alcoholic H decided he wants D

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Ok...ill try to answer all the questions...but im pretty sure i have in past post..
He "got sober" becus i left him..after many times of trying to convince him to stop and a yr of C on my own. He told me it actually got worse after i left and then after about 6 months he started an out pt recovery group.
Yes, there are def financial reasons, as ive said before, my son and i have been living hand to mouth since he decided he wanted the D. Before that he was here every day and made sure we had what we needed, after, not so much. It has been to the point that i recycle to buy milk, my utilities have been turned off and we def go without...while im hearing that hes buying hunting rifles and other toys. He makes very good money and has been living totally free in our house while it has been up fir short sale...for 2 yrs!!!!! The fact that he spent money on this OW while we went without burns me!!!
I took action to show my son that i will not be a doormat and that i will do what i have to do to take care of him, he knows i love his dad...but even he has said i have taken enough...the OW was not the first blow, just the wake up call....i love him, with all the heart i have left but i have to let him go. If he comes back, well that would be amazing..but im teaching my son about self confidence and character....something his father is lacking right now.
I still see the same C, now for 3 yrs. She is very helpful but thinks i have seriouse issues with not thinking of my own needs and always putting my H first over anything...im not doing that now...dont they say if u love something set it free?.. im not giving up...just protecting myself and my son because no one else is.