Looking for the silver lining...

[irishblessings]

End of a LONG week! Lots of "processing" going on over the last couple of weeks. I guess it's one of those things that when you are ready, you are ready.

It's been very interesting lately. Work has been EXTREMELY challenging. I work with 5 other men and 2 other women. The men's age range is 32-70. This week I was exposed to a "boys'" conversation in which one of the younger divorced men was showing his "personal" phone around to the other men to show them how many women he was "juggling". Women he met online, or at bars, or wherever. Constant flow of text messaging. But here's where the story takes a turn...not only were there text messages but there were extremely graphic sexual pictures of these women. This is how they "communicate" their interests. I was so taken aback. No one was shocked. So I investigate a little bit more - talk to other women in the office - younger women - not revealing the goings on of my peer - but the "hypothetically" situations. Again, was shocked to know how common this behavior was.

Having lived through the aftermath of a sex addiction with my X - I may be hypersensitive, but I wonder where the moral compass of society resides anymore. I spoke to my girls about it and they both knew girls in their social sphere who engage in this behavior - girls who think nothing of it. I have not approached my son yet.

I suppose I am probably "over" affected by all of this because I am trying to determine my belief system as I move forward in the aftermath of my divorce. Am I going to hold true to the faith of my childhood (Catholicism)? Will I lean more towards a liberal religious sect to establish my boundaries and non-negotiables? I am back to re-establishing my belief system as a result of all I have been through.

Anyway, I'm moving on.