How is it SUPPOSED to work?

[grebjack]

I wonder if you're right that it doesn't matter what I do. I'm a mathematician, so I tend to think that while I can't do anything to guarantee success, I can do things to give myself the best odds. Maybe that's just my denial so that I can let myself down slowly. But I know for sure there are things I can do to guarantee failure. And I'm pretty convinced there are things my husband could do to make our reconciliation a sure thing. So just in the name of symmetry, it seems like it SHOULD matter what I do. Assuming the goal is to save my marriage, I mean. A lot of the time, as I read these goals, I feel like that's Michele's selling point, but that's not really the goal of a lot of the people on the board. If I understand TrueGritter's posts, he has said repeatedly that a lot of marriages don't get saved, but if you DB successfully, you will come out of it a better person.

Anyway, I'm sorry you can't afford to file, if filing is what you really want. If you don't want the divorce, then I'm grateful for anything and everything that gets in the way of its finalization. I wish you well.

Thanks for reading my post.