it is unfair, it is awful... accept it... now, she is blinded and she wants the greener grass... the more you try to "make her" stay with you the more she will run away... infatuation does that. Do know that she did not choose him for who he is or any other reason, she is looking for an escape and to hear what she wants to hear.
Tell her you accept she needs time and that you are willing to give her that. That you will be going to marriage counselor, that you would like her to join you (invite her don't tell her to go). You seem very angry, and obviously I don't blame you, I was there too... but understand, that an upset clingy person is very unattractive. Be that man she fell in love with, confident. In the meantime, work on forgiving truly, ask yourself "can I truly forgive her?" if yes, then you have to accept she has to mourn her old R, she will miss him for a while, it hurts but this is a feeling that can go away with time. But you move forward, date her again, don't push her, give her time and work on yourself.
I know it hurts and this sitch [censored], I get you... but look at your goal, what do you ultimately want to happen? GAL, you can do it.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
