Thanks for sharing the positive news! Always nice to hear!
Sorry about the rough encounter with H yesterday. I know it sounds cliche around here, but the more you detach, the less those kinds of encounters will bother you. As many situations as I've followed, it just seems to be cyclical. Unfortunately, the pendulum's swung the other way. Also, unfortunately, the visitation thing is a necessary evil. It's a good thing y'all are discussing it. Try your best to be as diplomatic and cooperative as possible. That's not say that you let him just come in and dictate what he wants, making threats, etc. - there should be some negotiation. Think of it as an opportunity to show him / remind him how the two of you can work together on something.
Again, unfortunately you can't control the IL's influence. You'll just have to roll with the punches. If you're around them, DB them as well.
