ITM, So because your husband didn't want to deal with it, you decided to take action?
If this is the truth, you realize how you are enabling him and keeping the same dynamics of your addict/CoDe relationship right??
Have you picked up Codependent No More?? You need to.. and read it with DB/DR.
And slllloooowwww down.
I know that you and your h has been separated for awhile but you have had two major bombs in 2 months. Think of it as dropping two huge stones in a puddle.. the water gets all muddy and you can't see the bottom.
Your water is muddy with your emotions. Take some time and let the water clear. Once the water clears, you will know which direction to go.
My w dropped the bomb in July. It's now November and I'm STILL struggling between figuring out when I'm par of the new dynamic of our relationship or the old one. Things just unfortunately take time.
Change takes time.. and work.
So take a breath, be patient, work on yourself, don't worry about your H, and let God do the rest.
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M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
