I'm going to be a cold water on your situation. I mean you seem almost giddy about the revelation (not that the EA happened, but that it was exposed)
You are in for a really long haul my friend. And it will get tougher before it gets easier.
Rarely does one event get any M back on track. I know we all think that if that one thing happens, then the W will see the light. The same old applies consistency and time. Also, this is not an excuse for you to just not DB (I know you know this) because a lot of times if you discover your W was doing something some people use it as an excuse to no try anymore.
I would also caution you about claiming you've almost forgiven her. You will be surprised in what ways it comes up and how it can affect you. Yes we are all different but betrayal is still betrayal.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
