In a nutshell- Actively in piecing, we're a team and it's "us" and "we" the whole way. I still have my moments/days/triggers. H helps me through those; even left work one day to console me. Funny thing is, we are in such a different place now than before and I am actually a bit bored to talk about the A. Never thought I'd get here!
Similarly, she considered my H her best friend. He says it wasn't like that for him, but they had something and texted each other about 50 times a day, from dawn til late at night. Not kidding. I just trusted it was about work......and I had no idea it was so much. I trusted him.
No 2 A are alike, I know that....but you may find a lot of similarities on here. I did DB a lot and I'm sure it had an effect, but he wasn't giving her up. I told him that their friendship made me really uncomfortable and unhappy. He told me that he agreed, he said it was an inappropriate emotional R that took away form our marriage. He cooled it for about 3 weeks and then started right back up again. It seemed like every time I'd tell him what I needed and wanted, he'd turn around and run to her. I only know all this in retrospect, I was pretty blind to much of what was going on at the time. One example, he bought a new bed with me and then 3 hours later was IMing her about running away together! It wasn't until I calmly told him it was done that he started to wake up out of that fog they get in. He didn't want to hurt her, wanted to let her off gently, not ....(eye roll).... Took me about 8 weeks to get him away from her.
She moved away a little over a year ago and since that anniversary date, I find I am better.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
