I got to that point too and taking that stand was a catalyst to where we are now. I know it doesn't always work out that way, but I too was NOT going to tolerate ANY R between them; I was crystal clear about that.
MynameisMZ, so what ended up happening with your sitch??
M:38, H:37, SS:17, D:12 ILYBINILWY: Aug. 2011 OW Discovered: Mid Aug. 2011 Piecing from Aug. - Oct.2011 I Moved out: Nov.2011 Moved back in piecing since: Nov. 5, 2011 H talking to OW again: May 15