I have a serious issue with my wife 40, midlife crisis, weight loss, body looking banging, new friends, gives me the typical ILWYBNILWY speech, wants a divorce. 4 weeks devastated, fog clearing for me. Read Divorce Remedy, great ideas in there but I have come to one conclusion, a WAW or WAH cannot be brought back by any Jedi mind tricks. Sure we can improve upon ourselves, make ourselves more attractive emotionally and physically but ultimately the power is with the WAS. In my case I can fully see the signs of it, kind of typical, hormones, flattering attention by members of the opposite sex, destructive friends to the marriage, lack of intimacy, a selfish feeling of being unfulfilled, damn our family I want to be "Happy". I am GALing and will be moving out next month and wife is going forward with the D, we met with a mediator yesterday. I looked at her in our meeting and thought, "Who replaced my wife with this alien so hellbent on destroying everything". I will not do this forever, I was a decent husband, I tried my best to make it work. I will not allow to destroy my self-esteem, my patience is not infinite. I am giving her two years to work this out, have meaningless relationships, sex, her quest as she would say for a man to give her butterflies(Make me barf), be on her own. I will do the DR process and move on without her. But I will not pine for a woman who was not the same one I married. All her pious ponficiating when she heard other people divorcing for vague reasons. Now she is the one so totally full of sh*t , she can never use that logic ever again. The foggy mind of a WAS is funny, they get so deluded and selfish, they care not about sin, family, commitment, integrity. Talking with my Christian friends they agree she will reap what she has sown, her life with sin and without Jesus will be one of unquenchable thirst for meaning and love, her fantasy will not come true. She will have a life of regret and sadness. God sees all, especially the unregenerate, selfish heart and does not bless them.
