empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[canadianMrs.]

A good friend of mine who has know H and for decades was just over, she's also a counsellor. We narrowed down what I'm looking for. I need to balance doing what is right for my kids to have access to their dad, but limiting my interactions with him. I do feel there that H does take advantage of my easy going nature, and this is where I need some bounderies. We can be friends, but I won't be a door mat. She had me list 3 things that would help. 1. He needs to pick up the kids on his Friday's on time, or have his parents. 2. During the week,he can come to my house and spend time with the kids, but I will go out, or he can take them out. There will be a set time when he will leave.
3. (I'm still working on the details, but to act more like a guest in my home...not just come in and start going through my fridge etc)

I'm not punishing him, but need to have some breathing room.
Do these boundaries seem reasonable? Any thoughts, please share.