Well, shoot! I had written a post that resembled the length of 25yrs ( ) and somehow deleted the thing.
Okay, I know you are really scared and you think time is running out for you & W. But if you can try to focus here and calm your nerves, I think the DB community will be able to help you get through this.
We need more information about the MR before the A. Obviously, an A was a deal breaker for your W. Or, that may have been the last straw for her, since she was the one living with your depression too. You see, it's not just our depression, but in some ways....it becomes our S's depression b/c of us.
Have you read the DR book? Get a copy and go to the chapter on the Last Resort Technique.
Important for us to know if you and W are still living together under the same roof.
First thing: Stop apologizing to your W. You've already done that enough. After a while....it loses its effect.
I wished I had time to retype everything I meant to send the first time, but I'm pushing the clock this morning. Please come back....and we will too.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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