A Bklyn tale

[BklynMom]

Thanks for the ideas 2t & adinva. I am definitely going to wait to say anything as its still a couple of weeks away. If I do it will be something like my mother asked that I not mention our sitch to the extended family until after the holidays.

I have still been thinking about the big kid bed and my current thought is to say "D3 has been asking about getting a big girl and I was wondering if you would you like buy one with us. I dont want to exclude you from her big day"

I wanted to journal about the POW. Just wanted to get it off my chest the "evidence" for and against.

My h has been working closely with this POW for 2 yrs. He and his boss were grooming this woman to be promoted and part of their "team" So I have heard a lot about her the past couple of years and nothing he has mentioned made her seem like she was threating. She sent a gift when my 2nd D was born which was nice.

Evidence For
1. 2 weeks after ILYBNILWY, my H went to a baseball game with work people (granted I thought this was odd cause he jut spent 80/hr working with this people & he is not into the team or sport but okay). Apparently several of the work crew were planning on meeting in Grand Central before the game and getting a drink & going together to the stadium. My H tells this and says "but only POW showed up & we didnt plan it that way"

2. A few weeks later my H asked that I bring the girls to his job to say hi and I see POW - she acted weird to me.

3. H & I go to a wedding in late June in a romantic locale. (Foolishly I believed this would be the weekend we "makeup") My H gets hammered and we are the bar he tells me he is sending POW a picture/text of a huge shot of tequilla - "She will think its so funny."

4.While living at home still h has over the top need to be attached to the cell phone

5. He takes d3 & d1 to outdoor concert with her and another male friend in July

6. Takes d3/d1 apple picking with her 3 weeks ago

Evidence Against

1. He has been out of the house 4 months and has taken no legal action besides apparently hiring a lawyer

2. I asked once if there was another woman he said no, therapist asked once and he said no

3. He would not be seeing this woman often because he is in Atlanta and I know she is not there. since Sept there are only 2 0r 3 possible nights he could have spent with her

4. Mutual male friend says its not happening

5. I personally dont think she is sexy (She is cute) and not really his type

OKay thanks for letting me get that all out there. I know I cant control whether he is in a relationship or not. I do know that if he is telling her ILY there is not room for me in his life & I will move on accordingly.

H coming to NY this weekend which is odd - 2 wks in a row. Tomorrow I will figure out what I am going to wear. Definitely a work out outfit he liked the last one I wore. Sometimes I feel excited to see him and that usually changes to scared within a few minutes cause what if I mess up.

H hasnt called since Monday when D3 asked him why he didnt have a picture phone (which he has but doesnt call on)

Another wonderful day with my girls. I have so much to be grateful for