I agree with you friend, dueling piano bars are great!
As far as the papers go.. what is healthy for DG? You mentioned that your H waits to the last minute (so can relate).. so by allowing him to take care of this - would that be a 180 for you or a 180 you would like to make?
I remember when my wife said she was going to do the asset list.. I let her do it because it was a 180 for me to not take care of it. It hurt like hell, a ton of anxiety, and deep down I was hoping she would procrastinate to the point of changing her mind.
Well obviously that didn't happen.. I got one.
BUT I don't regret doing that. That baby step was one of many I have taken to get back control in my life. To stop doing things I never wanted to do.
I didn't think it was healthy at the time, but hindsight is 20/20 and it was totally worth it to get me closer to where I am now.
Now is the time you will have to start digging even deeper DG. Because after 8 months, you are going to start having contact with you H to deal with this sh!t.
How do you wish to handle it? Who do you want to be in this process? (((( ))))
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
