Reminded me of what he likes to say (I'll channel my inner starsky here):
+ Cheaters lie and liers cheat...
ie. Would you really expect your W to tell you the truth? About the OM... or ANYTHING, really...?
That's why we often say believe none of what you hear and 50% of what you see...
And that works in reverse, as well... What we say, they won't listen to... could be because they know they'd lie to you, so why would they think you're telling the truth or not trying to manipulate them in some way...
If you are going to confront your W... then the best I can recommend is say your peace and leave the conversation... it is highly unlikely you will convince her of anything...
And if she has anything to say... then use that as an opportunity to LISTEN... and VALIDATE...
Personally, I hope you utilize the 48 hour silence rule...
