GJ, I so hear your frustrations... if it were only so easy as red/blue pill... *sigh*
You want to know what else I think sometimes? That it doesn't freakin' matter what I do. I could have been all over my W with pursuing, or I could have stayed, or I could have confronted the OMs in very assertive ways, or I could have lambasted her enabling friends, etc, etc...
And it would still end the same...
You don't want the D? I get it. I don't either, but I'm so freakin' done... I just want it done... and all my W offered was an SA that was so lopsided, my L said she wouldn't represent me if I signed it...
And I can't freakin' afford to file D... uuuuggghhhh...!!!!!
So I get to follow my W's original, spoken intention of simply her living life, single... indefinitely...
Anyhow, what's my point here...?
right... patience...
or... after four years... heck, IMHO you're entitled to approach your H in any way and on any thing you want...
I'd put bets it won't change a thing... no matter what you do... then again, all I have is about $1.66 in change to bet with, so...
My lesson? I thought I had patience... guess I didn't realize what patient REALLY means...
