You are NOT weak if you don't say something. You are strong if you can hold it together and not do it. Telemark's advice is spot on, act like Carlos doesn't even exist. You are a hard working man, a professional, a loving father, and great person. Keep that in mind before you dignify any of the scum that is the OM.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10