W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[25yearsmlc]

sandi

You know I love you, but I totally took a different view of her behavior.

I did NOT get that she was being "agreeable" at all...just selfish and nutty...
just my .02

but what IS apparently agreed upon 2t, is you need to see a L asap...what are you doing NOT even getting something in writing?

Don't do it until you see the L! (Please don't let your w draft one so you can save a few bucks..OMG...)

I say, be leery of a WAW who is too agreeable too quickly. In fact, yours seem to be going overboard! You can have the kids every day (as well as do all the parenting, apparently), and she'll even continue to financially support you?

she's nagging him about working and wants him to leave AND wants to dump the kids on him...not so sweet to me.

And, to top that.....she is so concerned about you.

Not concerned, curious...wants to KNOW it's happening...and that he's not getting a change of heart or clinging to her and his "hopes".

Really sounds sweet, doesn't it? Sounds like she's thought of everything....how to comfort her parents, how to make this sound like an exciting journey for the kids.....even sneaked in that little part about it being a mutual agreement for you to move out.

this also annoys me greatly 2t. Do NOT agree that it is mutual. You can calmly say "While I don't feel the same, I respect her wishes" and she cannot fault you for that...don't lie to the kids and say you two "amicably" agree to this...she's being a coward here AND the pretense of how amicable it all is, does NOTHING healthy for the kids.

ON one hand they are not allowed to hope for a reconciliation but OTOH they are going to be told it's all good and mutual and "now they'll have two Christmas trees"????. Hey She can't have it both ways imo.

The only thing I saw she had a problem with was telling the kids it's a time-out. This seems to be commonplace with WAW's also. They want no S time, no MC, no easing the kids into it.....they want it chopped off at the neck and go straight to D court. Have you noticed that happening when reading other posts from men here on the board?

I know I may sound cynical and hurtful, and I'm sorry if you take it take that way, but please believe me, your W is not the first to tell her H these things just to get what she's after. Yes, the emotional roller coaster, sadness, crying, etc., is not uncommon either. She's a mess, but it doesn't make her stop the insanity!

Please.......get a lawyer's counsel, fast.

see a L fast b/c you are moving out and that's not smart if there's nothing protecting you.

If she's so confident you can see the kids all the time AND come over I also wonder how she'll get the space she says she needs.

I DO NOT happen to think some OM will be over at the house anytime soon, but I've been wrong before.

She just sounds really screwy to me. More than anything else, of all the mixed emotions the one I am feeling from her the most is like she's ...lost her footing.