W arrived at 19:40 and accepted the offer of coffee. I was upbeat and friendly, she was in a reasonable mood. Told her how good her new hairstyle was. She sat at the end of one sofa so there was no room for me, deliberate I think to keep us apart. We had a conversation about odds and ends. Then I was asked if I had find her teddy and I said I couldn't find it but we could go and look again which we did. She found what she was looking for. Bit of a wrench to see her taking more stuff away, but whatever. Had a bit of a talk about the relationship, she is still adamant that there is no chance of reconcilliation, not just because of her, but because her mother would disown her if she even considered it. I said that I was not wanting her to make any decisions or commitments, but let's be good friends and see if we can grow to like each other again. Only then should we look to see what other obstacles, like her mother would need to be addressed. Had a few tears and some home truths about how she felt I had mistreated her, as she saw them. I showed her the 5LL book I had been reading and told her something about it. Recommended it for her to read and she did take it. I had a bit of a start when she tells me she has an appointment with a solicitor next week. That is ominous, but I said it was a good thing for her to collect as much information as she could and that I would support her in anything she thought was right. During the tears, she was telling me how now she has just about all she ever wanted and all of her own choosing (furniture etc) and a house in the country, all things I "had denied" her. I told her how sorry I was that she had felt so unloved and ignored over the last two years and that although I couldn't change the past, I was going to be changing tomorrow whether she comes home or not. "Too little too late".
At 22:00 she left after telling me she would have to rush around to get her medications after work tomorrow, so I said I would get it for her. So she is intending to come over tomorrow from work to collect it. Got a hug and a kiss on the way out.
