Another crisis.....but H opening up now

[25yearsmlc]

Angel

try gratitude that Retrovaille exists, & that it's close enough to you for you to attend OR you have the money for the transportation

and that you have the money for the fee

(though in truth in our area, they will ask for others to donate to cover the costs if you truly cannot afford it. We ended up donating enough to cover another couple in the future, b/c that's how moved we were by things we heard and learned...)

and most of all, be glad that your h is willing to go.

So Be grateful. Gratitude does amazing things.

Trust the process...tell yourself that, when you start to panic about something or your mind veers off into the swirling vortex of negativity,

or you worry that your h won't like something or won't react the way YOU want him to....knock that off!

Let him be. Let it simmer and brew for him, and

YOU WORK and focus on YOUR stuff! You have enough on your personal plate:

Like the control issues & the mind reading & the negativity & the anger...

Angel, do you see how your h might have hopes about this weekend? HE might be praying that Retrovaille changes YOUR HEART AND MIND??

it is very possible.

So, you stay in your sandbox, and don't get into his.

I think you're going to have a hard, tough, beautiful weekend.

And that will be the beginning of a new marriage for you IF YOU LET IT.

So get out of your own way and ENJOY THIS GIFT!!!