It's confirmed my W has been lying all this time and I'm not paranoid - got to say that helps me.
D will be very hard emotionally and financially on all of us (me in particular as I will be away from my girls and I don't have family support in the States). Her parents will support her from a financial perspective.
By not confronting on the A - I am showing her I am weak, she is having the best of both worlds, financial support from me so she can be a SAHM and having sex with someone else.
I know I'm not thinking this through logically - but I can't continue as we are pretending I don't know. I'm showing myself disrespect. Is it pride - yes it is to a degree.
I can't get over how this is not my W - she is not this person but she's chosen this path to destruction.
So now I am faced with a stark choice. 1. Say nothing, continue to DB and hope the A runs it's course - disrespecting myself in the process. 2. Confront her - which will either a. Move forward with her plans for D - which will devestate me but at least I am being honest with myself. b. Shake her up and make her see things for what they are (I know - this only happens in the movies).
M47 W45 D10 (Has CP) D7 M12 T14 ILYBINILWY 5/1/11 Asked for seperation 5/10/11 Seriously DBing 7/1/11 W admitted to 2 EA's on 11/3/11. Evidence of PA 11/5/11 - Definite evidence of PA 11/20/11 D - Final 7/11/12