(2) I don't think you are crazy at all for worrying about Gabe getting resentful. People who have a pattern of subordinating their needs and then resenting it tend to repeat that pattern.
(3) Have you considered being direct about this? "Gabe, I feel so great, so loved, so supported, when you do x,y,z. You are a great partner. How can I be a better partner to you?"
