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[adinva]

You are funny! And seem like a real catch, genuinely. One of the first things I read of yours was about staying home with your turtle. Your sense of humor is wonderful.

But I read a lot of your opinions about the dating sites as a lack of compassion and empathy for these women. Probably almost all the women there have been hurt and recovered, and are putting themselves out there, and you're making fun.

Use your powers for good!

[whatisis]

Oops, humour gone bad! Good point. Thanks.

[whatisis]

Btw, the lady looking for "protection" was a tiny lady seeking a tall guy. She wasn't looking for protection from physical abuse...that I wouldn't use for humorous purposes. Just to clarify.

[25yearsmlc]

G,

I have two siblings who married people they met online...go figure.

I shall write YOUR description:

"Friends tell me I'm beautiful, brilliant and have a hilarious wit...and those are my jealous insecure friends, who barely know me!"

Then say the three most important things you want (e.g., non violent criminal past, IQ over 80,-and not physically repulsive...)

what's that? You're pickier?

Well fine...list it all and see whatcha get!

I think I'd focus on the positives rather than mentioning negatives you don't want. You'll get the same results with sugar instead of vinegar...like wanting a financially solvent, fundamentally happy person interested in living a full life, with a sense of humor being mandatory,

are all reasonable!

And sounds a tad better than these alternatives-- "Not interested in broke jokes who want to mooch, OR who are chronically underemployed or worse...Dislike those who are negatively programmed and whine a lot. NO sedentary couch potatoes, no depressives, no cry babies wanted....and if you haven't laughed hard or more than twice this week don't bother calling".

See how the first sounded a little bit nicer?

there, my work here is done.

[KarenMarieS]

And this is why I dislike online dating. I really don't want to sell myself. I am not good with self descriptions, don't feel like writing a paragraph that is supposed to describe my whole being.

Gabby, your still young, you work in a field that has quite a few
eligible men I would think, so I can understand on line wouldnt suit you, but some of us, who are "older" and i wont say how much older lol and our jobs ( or even lack of jobs!) do not quite give us that opportunity, decided that on line was an option for us, I also joined our churchs' single group, .... 2 men ( one gay) and 32 women, yup lol
I gave on line a try on and off, met some great men and the best one i met, i've been with for 5 yrs and am engaged to, he too worked as an engineer, not a career too many women our age are a part of, so for us it worked , and worked great, A few of us from the board have had great luck with this Barb, for one, Que is married to her on line love, they are very happy , so it does work for some, and I personally didnt see it as selling myself, not anymore then I did when friends set me up on a blind date.
Just saying its not for all of course, but there is a high percentage of people now meeting and marrying this way.

[KarenMarieS]

cut myself off, prob cause i was talking too much lol

anyway, on line really is a good option for some, in a way dating of any kind is a sort of selling yourself,for lack of a better term, i think
but thats just MHO and i'll go now

Good Luck What, i cant imagine w/ your adorable personality you'd ever have any prob finding dates!

[whatisis]

Good Luck What, i cant imagine w/ your adorable personality you'd ever have any prob finding dates!

Thanks Karen, the well seems to have dried up that last two days. Nobody wants to meet me...I'm not fresh meat anymore! I'm at 19 women so far but we're now at a standstill. We're consolidating before the next wave Lol. I sent out one email today, we'll see what response that gets. Hey, my therapist likes the new Filipino lady prospect! She says this lady has been more open an honest with me in one email than MM was in a month of dating!

[KarenMarieS]

Oh I didnt think you were being negative Gabbys, I just know some people are a little taken aback with OL dating, at first and rightly so, I can imagine it is different, I felt the same way at first too

Sorry I forgot that your age bracket does have different issues, not that young children are an issue but its def a consideration for sure, My son was 17 when cuckoo left, and I didnt date till he had left for college
You never know tho, when you least expect it, when your not looking most times, someone comes along, I know that will happen for you guys! You know the old saying, when the time is right...
Its nice tho sharing stories here, watching people move on to the next step in their lives after going thru he!! with our exs!

[whatisis]

G, I've sent out five and got one positive response. Two of the ladies dropped off the site a few days after I emailed them, so it was too late for them but I tried. I'm not mass emailing or anything. I find someone interesting and I give it a shot. I actually enjoy sitting down and putting together these emails. It's all fun right now!

[KarenMarieS]

It's all fun right now!

thats the spirit! lol when I stopped stressing about it,and i stress over EVERYTHING! LOL and starting taking it as a fun adventure, and if nothing else, just meeting new friends, going out for a few hours when my married friends were busy, it became a lot more fun!