ROMB & 2tp thanks for the feedback but I think my question was not clear. Basically I am not going to tell me extended family anything. However if I tell my husband I am not telling he will think I am not accepting that we are getting a divorce. Whenever he thinks I have hope he gets pissed off and calls a lawyer. If I say nothing to my H but say I am going to this big family Thanksgiving he will assume my extended family knows and the road will be bumpy.

So how do I let my H know I am not telling without him thinking I am hopeful?

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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13