It never fails to warm my heart and bring a smile to my face when I see you have commented on my thread. Your words are always thoughtful and uplifting. Thank you for staying the course with me throughout this journey.
I always love your idea to DB others in our lives! With my family, and particularly my Mother, I have my work cut out for me! I can completely understand their hesitancy in accepting my H again; he has really hurt me (and the kids) in this storm. I would feel the same toward anyone who hurt one of loved ones if the roles were reversed. However, they are just going to have to trust that every decision I make is with my children's best interests at heart. The facts are in the research that is is best for everyone, especially the kids, we remain married. My H has re-committed 110%, he isn't abusive, an alcoholic or drug user, he's not a deadbeat. He is truly a supportive and involved dad, a hard worker and good provider. And, importantly, I really, truly love him with my whole heart. That I am certain of. That has to count for something, right?
Also, I think my loved ones are blind to my contribution to the problems...they just see my husband as the big, bad bully against their "perfect" daughter & sister. Again, I get that (hey, they love me!), but they have to look at the whole picture.
I really do appreciate your advice, JB, and ask that you pray for me as I now tackle this part of the reconciliation. Take care, my friend!
