I know this had to be terrible for all of you, but I personally support your action. He cannot continue any contact with another woman, period! He may dress it up by calling it "just friends" but it doesn't change the fact that it is inappropriate in a marriage. That woman is M. He is M. No friendships with opposite sex that excludes the spouses is ever appropriate!

I hope he will see that he is emotionally addicted to the affair and that he has to cut off all contact with her. He has to go through that period of "grieving" (as bad as that sounds)and go cold turkey to get her out of his life.

Forget how bad the friendship thing may sound or look. He has to decide what he wants more......OW's "friendship" (which is really an EA) or his family. He can't have both!

Hope you will stay on the board for support.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!