Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

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We are now separated for 6 months. At first it was to let her see the changes that I was making. She was too angry at me all the time. She stated that we would have to start slow and go on dates before anything would change back. Well we have never gone on any dates. She told me she fell out of love with me. She was angry with me for not changing jobs and my families business always comes back and bites us in the butt. I never put her and the kids first. I always lumped them in with my family one big family. Boy was I wrong. Lastly her and my brother argued about my brother in law needing to go to a therapist. I didn't get involved or protect her/back her up in front of her. I did it the next day in the office when he made a comment about it. So because I didn't fight for her would be another reason.


Yesterday was my sons 6th birthday and we took him and my daughter to dinner and bowling. A nice family esque night. Till kids went to bed. I can tell she is frustrated with me and I asked her last night. She told me she is uncomfortable when I am around. We started this whole conversation about the holidays and how we are doing them this year. Well She is letting me have the kids wednesday night before thanksgiving and thanksgiving day into Friday. Then it is her weekend.
I made a comment to her that I didn't understand why she was getting frustrated with me. Every time I see her or I am at our condo I am uncomfortable. She told me she is not comfortable with me around. I guess I bring up the anger she has for me.
A friend of mine his wife told him that just once she would like for me to yell at her and argue. I don't normally do this. Also my therapist and the books I have read say to keep your cool. Well what the heck should I do?
She says there is no more us. She is upset with me financially and asked if I could take over my debt from our joint account. Which would mean split my money up. So how much does she need from me for the kids? Which I will do cause they are mine and I love them. I am not a dead beat dad.
Another reason she is not happy with me is I work for my families mortgage company and she has wanted me to find other work. Which I have been doing since moving out. I have sent so many resumes out and not one bite. I am trying she doesn't believe me at all. The only way for her to believe me is if I came and picked up my kids in a uniform for work or jacket from a new job.
My goal is to find a new job and pay off bills. Then maybe she will feel comfortable with me. And yes this is for me. I need to get out of the family I am starting to not like my brother and sister. More of resent them cause its partially there fault I am this way financially.

We have my sons birthday party this saturday with a lot of people so she has to be nice and maybe talk with me. I don't know. My other goal is get this new job and maybe in 6 months which would be one year separated she and I can start slow.