lc4, I found you. I am so happy y'all are at this point and that things are going so well.
Well, I've not had to cross this bridge, so I think others may be much better qualified to advise you on the family thing. However, I am wondering if it would be helpful if you were able to get your family to drink the DB Kool-Aid. I don't think you'd have to explicity mention DB'ing. I am just wondering if you would be able to convince them about what you've done, what your H has done, and why this time it's so much different. Get them on board with what you're doing. I dunno, just my crack advise.
I am keeping you and your family in my prayers, lc4!
I am so happy y'all are at this point and that things are going so well. 
